David Maister posted a very simple statement a few days ago and asked his readers for their thoughts.
Secret of a Great Marriage Is
To give your love without conditions, but to work every day to deserve the love you receive in return.”
Consider this statement when you substitute other words for love. How about respect, support, or even, time?
His point was to
illustrate that marriage is a relationship. And like other relationships (for example, professional relationships)
there are ways to build a strong, successful, and rewarding marriage.
The post started a great discussion. David’s readers came up with several strategies for maintaining healthy relationships – most of which we all probably know.
So why don’t we always act on
One reason is because our lives just keep getting busier.
When pushed to the limit,
the first thing that tends to go is our relationship building skills! In our rush we don’t take the time to treat
people with respect, empathize with their position, and support them whenever
The irony is that building strong relationships can actually help us alleviate some of our time pressure. We’ll develop bonds with those that can offer counsel. We might find people that can help us accomplish our objectives. We might even be able to remove obstacles by learning what motivates those around us.
Relationship building is not just an investment of our time in those around us. It’s also an investment in our own well-being!